Detached and calm

A lot of times, people will say or do something that is against
the mood of the current situation.
There is a natural flow to a conversation that prevents you
from saying or doing something that, if you are aware, doesn't
quite feel appropriate. This is not usually a big thing, but when
you try and impose your desire to say or do something
and it doesn't fit the current situation, you feel a certain
tension that wouldn't be there had you just gone with the
flow.

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